The Book Hedgehog

In a previous post I lamented the departure of a member of staff who had coordinated the social enterprise activity at Dylan’s setting. During the recruitment process for a new social enterprise coordinator, the workshop and shop at the residential setting remained closed to members of the public and to residents.  This meant that there was a gap in Dylan’s daily schedule which had to be filled with alternative activities. Although staff did their best to keep Dylan purposefully occupied, he was more unsettled during this time and clearly missed his work in the shop.

In my post in December I described how, on the run up to Christmas, Dylan had been insistent that the shop be opened so that he could make the holly wreaths which he associated with that time of year.  I reflected:

What I am struck by is how important these seasonal rhythms are to Dylan. I suppose if you don’t use speech to communicate and have only limited communication, ’embodied’  sense-making through familiar activities is important. I have often thought of Dylan as needing consistency in his life but perhaps it would be more accurate to think of him as needing constancy. The difference between the two is that consistent things do not vary, though they may start and stop, whereas something that is constant does not stop,  although it may vary. Dylan seems to be able to manage everyday variations – the absence of a face, a change of detail – providing the anchoring rhythms remain.

I am very happy to report that a new social enterprise coordinator is now in post and that Dylan has resumed the ‘anchoring rhythm’ of his daily work in the shop. This seems to be going well. Since the shop re-opened Dylan has been more settled and has seemed generally happier.  As well as enjoying the rhythm and structure of working in the shop, it helps that Dylan knows the new coordinator; ‘J’ worked at the National Autistic Society school which Dylan attended so she is a familiar face. Not only does this mean that trust is already established, the continuity in terms of J’s knowledge of Dylan’s interests and skills is fantastic.

The arrival of J has provided an ideal opportunity to review Dylan’s work and to introduce new activities.  Since the social enterprise activity resumed Dylan has participated in a range of arts and crafts activities including candle making, paper printing and model making. He has also made ‘book hedgehogs’; these are ingenious creations, made by cutting the pages of a book. I am told that Dylan worked carefully and methodically at the hedgehogs; this is not something I would have expected Dylan to enjoy and reminds me (again) of the importance of keeping an open mind. As well as introducing Dylan to new activities, J is planning to continue the woodwork which Dylan enjoys so much.  She has identified some fantastic potential projects for Dylan and a new woodwork bench is due to be delivered.  Some new, and more accessible, qualifications are also planned.  Exciting times ahead for Dylan and the other residents  🙂

In my December post I drew a distinction between ‘consistency’ and ‘constancy’, suggesting Dylan might need the latter more than the former.  At the moment, serendipitously, Dylan seems to have both; the new coordinator provides Dylan with some consistency while the work offers him constancy.

Heigh-Ho, Heigh-Ho…

I’ve written about the social enterprise activity linked to Dylan’s care setting in previous blog posts.  This is a craft and horticulture enterprise with a small retail outlet through which the produce and makings are sold to members of the public. The residents at the home are fully involved in the enterprise and work in the shop, supported by members of staff and the social enterprise coordinator.

When Dylan first moved to the residential setting I didn’t pay much attention to this aspect of the provision. While I supported the principle behind the initiative it wasn’t something I thought Dylan would access; he had never shown any interest in gardening, small animal care or crafts, as a child or adult, so it’s fair to say that I viewed the social enterprise activity on Dylan’s timetable with scepticism.

How wrong I would turn out to be. Dylan’s regular afternoon sessions in the shop proved a great hit with Dylan and the source of some of his most significant learning. Since Dylan moved to the residential setting, just over two years ago, he has taken part in a range of activities including woodwork, jam-making, gardening and the production of arts and crafts. Dylan has also worked in the shop, serving customers.

One of the factors which seemed to be key to Dylan’s engagement with the social enterprise activity was the coordinator (I’ll call him A) with whom Dylan developed an excellent relationship.  Dylan seemed to realise that A had a different role to the other staff at the home and this allowed Dylan to adopt a different approach to the relationship. The difference is subtle but significant; because the coordinator is not involved in personal care, an alternative form of trust and closeness was able to develop.

There have been many highlights to the social enterprise activity which Dylan has taken part in since he moved to residential care but the one I would pick out, first and foremost, is his woodwork.  One day, apparently, A  noticed Dylan gazing over the fence which separates the home from a neighbour’s property. Dylan was transfixed by the neighbour’s  shed where a range of woodworking tools were kept. When this happened on several occasions, A decided to take Dylan to a local lumberyard in order to choose some wood and begin a simple project using some basic woodworking tools.

The results were quite extraordinary. Dylan demonstrated a love of working in wood and some good skills. In time, he was producing goods for sale in the shop.  Dylan, apparently, had several orders from members of the community for these wooden planters, which I was informed by A represented ‘90% Dylan’s own work’  (including the painting, which Dylan also enjoys).

Another highlight of last year’s enterprise activity was when residents at the home entered some of their produce in the local agricultural show. Dylan took 3rd prize for his strawberry jam and another resident was awarded first prize for a pot of apricot and passion fruit. These entries were judged alongside produce from across the region so it was an amazing achievement – and as A pointed out to me, ‘strawberry jam’ is a popular category so Dylan did really well.  The icing on the cake (or the ‘toast under the jam’) is that all of this activity has been recorded in support of a folder of work towards an ASDAN qualification.

When Dylan moved to residential care I was told that health stream funding would mean an end to formal education for Dylan.  It is through Dylan’s residential place, however, that he has accessed the only educational provision he has received since leaving school at 19. The ASDAN framework for these activities is, of course, a plus; what is important is that Dylan has enjoyed the activities and engaged in some valuable learning. As the basis for personal development, the social enterprise activity has been fantastic.

One of the unexpected bonuses of Dylan’s relationship with A has been ‘brum brum’ time. Dylan has a deep interest in vehicles. He loves to watch me drive and often ‘asks’ me about the controls, particularly the gear stick, which fascinates him. Staff noticed that Dylan would often stand watching as A cut the grass with the ride-on mower.  ‘Brum brum’, Dylan said one day. After discussion, it was decided that Dylan would be allowed to ride with A (without grass-cutting blades) in order to get a close-up experience of driving.  For Dylan this was joy indeed!

You might have detected my use of past tense and references to ‘last year’ rather than present time. The reason is that since the end of the summer, following A’s departure for a new job, the programme of social enterprise activities has been on hold. I was surprised and (selfishly) disappointed by the news of A’s resignation, but not exactly shocked; the departure of Dylan’s much-loved key worker earlier in the year had alerted me to the fact that staff move on and that Dylan’s life in residential care will be a series of Hellos and Goodbyes.

Christmas makings, 2015

This is difficult as Dylan forms strong bonds and attachments. Dylan has struggled in the past with the sudden  absence of loved people; the death of his grandmother and his sister leaving home are significant examples but there have also been school and care staff who Dylan has missed enormously when they have moved on. For this reason, I was anxious about how Dylan would react to A leaving; not only would there be an interruption in the scheduling of activities which Dylan has come to enjoy, he would surely miss having A in his life more generally?

Dylan’s wreath, 2016

In the event I didn’t see any obvious reaction from Dylan in the weeks following  A’s departure; Dylan was unsettled some days, but not in a way which could be specifically linked. I was mildly surprised. Perhaps Dylan hadn’t enjoyed the social enterprise activity as much as I imagined? Maybe he thought A was on holiday and would return? Or could Dylan be more flexible than I thought?  I was a little disappointed as well as relieved; while I was glad Dylan didn’t seem distressed, part of me had wanted it to be important enough to Dylan to miss and mourn.

Dylan’s wreath, 2017

Then, in the last two or three weeks, a development. One of the support staff has been opening up the shop one afternoon a week in order to keep things ticking over until a new coordinator is appointed. Dylan pointed at the shop one day, insisting ‘Chri’. It took me a while to realise that Dylan was saying ‘Christmas’. Social enterprise time has been used to make wreaths and hampers to sell in the shop, in previous years, and although Dylan has only lived at the home for a relatively short time this must have become an important way marker for him. While Dylan had coped with the interruption of his regular social enterprise activity, he was not going to accept the absence of Christmas activity. So last week Dylan made a wreath for our door and put together a hamper for his Granddad…

What I am struck by is how important these seasonal rhythms are to Dylan. I suppose if you don’t use speech to communicate and have only limited communication, ’embodied’  sense-making through familiar activities is important. I have often thought of Dylan as needing consistency in his life but perhaps it would be more accurate to think of him as needing constancy. The difference between the two is that consistent things do not vary, though they may start and stop, whereas something that is constant does not stop,  although it may vary. Dylan seems to be able to manage everyday variations – the absence of a face, a change of detail – providing the anchoring rhythms remain.

The closing date for applications for the coordinator role has now passed and I am fingers and toes crossed that Dylan can get back to his woodworking and ASDAN qualifications  soon 🙂

Things To Celebrate

March 2016 002My presentation at last week’s National Autistic Society conference seemed to go well I’m pleased to say. I will share a summary of it, and some reflections on the conference more generally, very soon. In the meantime I have two pieces of news to share.

Firstly, I am delighted to report that Dylan started an ASDAN qualification in Horticulture yesterday. Isn’t that marvellous? I have mentioned, in previous posts, how much Dylan enjoys working with the activities coordinator in the social enterprise shop at his  home. This has become a very positive aspect of Dylan’s programme and it’s fantastic that the work Dylan is doing is being recognised in this way.

In my conference presentation last week I referred to my attempts, when Dylan left school, to secure post-19 education provision for him. It seemed to me that, in my area at least, the developing agenda around community-based autism services had created a situation which was working well for some individuals but had nothing to offer to others. This seemed, in general, to divide around what is sometimes referred to as ‘high and low functioning’ adults (terms I dislike).

So many people, at the time, were of the view that education was not possible, or even appropriate, given Dylan’s intellectual disability and limited communication. I should focus instead, I was told, on identifying social care provision for Dylan. By the time the Local Authority had accepted their obligation to provide education services to autistic adults with complex needs, Dylan was too unsettled to access such provision. It is ironic, perhaps, that it is through a residential setting  – a model of provision which some people argue should be phased out – that Dylan has finally been able to access the education which is appropriate to his needs and from which he can benefit.

I have always argued that the challenge, in the aftermath of the Winterbourne View scandal, is to ensure residential settings for adults with disabilities are excellent rather than to close them down. While community-based support will be an infinitely better option than residential care for some adults (providing it is properly resourced) there will always be others for whom residential services are essential. Our task, surely, is to identify what the key factors are in the development of excellence in relation to residential settings for autistic adults?

When parents and relatives visit a prospective home for autistic adults they try to make careful judgements about the setting. Is this a safe place? Is it a happy home? Are the residents purposefully engaged and well-supported by trained and caring staff? Such judgements can be difficult to make, however, and parents receive little support with the decision. We do our best but, inevitably, worry about whether this will be good enough.

2Happily I’ve never doubted that the home I eventually chose for Dylan was the best that could be. Even so, it was fantastic to receive independent confirmation of this at the weekend: Dylan’s home, I am delighted to say, has been judged ‘outstanding’ in a CQC Inspection. It’s a wonderful acknowledgment of the time, effort and care the staff and management invest in Dylan and the other young people at the home.

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The pictures of Dylan are from the Home’s February newsletter to parents. They show Dylan working on the firebrick stand he has been making as part of his woodwork project.

 

Autism And The Alphabet: Dylan and the ‘W’

Munch 003My last couple of posts have focused on Dylan’s love of paintings and my attempts to understand the role of art in his life. In order to do this I identified imagery which Dylan seems to respond to and constructed a therapeutic narrative around it. A comment on my last post, however, reminded me that I was making assumptions about Dylan’s viewing. How could I be sure Dylan was responding to the images in a painting? Perhaps he was attracted by the light or by a picture’s lines?

My initial reaction to the question ‘why don’t you ask Dylan what he likes about the paintings?’ was that I couldn’t. He (I mean we) don’t have the language. But the question set me thinking. Maybe Dylan was indeed gazing at darkness rather than thinking ‘rock’, or enjoying the quality of contrast rather than the thing I call ‘a cross’. I convert the light and the dark, the colours, shapes and lines to concrete nouns for Dylan but perhaps what he likes about the paintings aren’t the things I give him words for.

Maybe I need to view Dylan’s paintings with the part of my brain which sees spatially instead of with language. Rather than labelling objects in a painting I could offer Dylan the spaces and shade. Such an approach would fit with what I have already learned about the way he sees the world. Elsewhere I have described how Dylan sees hair on trees instead of leaves and tells me that the cheese is crying when I melt it. I have suggested that Dylan’s lack of language might allow him to experience phenomena more intimately and intensely than I am able to because he uses his senses rather than these inadequate words. Dylan’s perception of the world, I have speculated, may be right-brained whereas mine is left; where I see ‘curtain’ Dylan might see silver light spilling from a vertical edge.

See saw

W 005I must have been thinking about this a few days later when I picked up a magnetic letter from Dylan’s bedroom floor. Because I was about to say ‘Oh look Dylan there’s a letter’ or ‘look here’s a W’ when I remembered Elisa’s question ‘Why don’t you ask Dylan what he likes about the paintings?’. Could I be open-ended about the W? Could I ask Dylan what I had found on the floor?

Oh look. What’s this Dylan?

See saw

I stared at him in shock. Then I asked again.

See saw

You should have seen my face 🙂 I cracked such a grin. What a gift. Dylan sometimes hands me these, unasked for, but I might never have received this one if I hadn’t asked the question that way. The see-saw was my first open-ended gift.

Seeing W

wikipedia.orgDylan’s magnetic W is the same shape as the version produced by a keyboard: not actually ‘double U’ (as the letter is pronounced in English) but rather ‘Double V’ (as it is pronounced in French). Although this version of W is commonplace today, when I was a child it had curves not angles. In handwriting lessons we were taught to practice forming our Ws by joining Us together and moving our hand briskly and freely across the page, line after line.

UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU
UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

Just like Dylan I made letters into pictures. My friends and I thought we were terribly risqué when (collapsing in giggles) we decorated our UUs with squiggles and dots to turn them into bottoms and bosoms. Perhaps I didn’t see a see saw because of the cursive way we wrote our Ws but I can’t help thinking that had I looked carefully – as Dylan does – I might have seen a swing boat.

Hearing W

publicdomainpicures.netAs well as the mismatch between the visual ‘W’ and the heard shape ‘UU’ I encountered other problems with this letter as a child. I remember sitting on the back step of a friend’s house on a warm day one long school holiday. We had got the writing bug and were sitting in the sun with paper and pens. I don’t know how old we were – perhaps seven or eight, maybe a little older. I remember my friend asked her dad, working in the drive nearby, for a spelling.

How do you spell daffodil?

D- a- double f – o – d – i – l

I had never heard anyone use the ‘double letter’ device before. I remember I felt anxious about the letters I had heard but didn’t have the confidence to ask my friend’s dad to repeat them. I did my best but something seemed wrong with my word:  Dawfodil. It looked a bit odd. I wasn’t going to question my friend’s dad though.

Suddenly he was hovering above me, looking down at my page: ‘What have you got there?’, he asked, ‘Why have you written a W?’ He had said W I told him. He checked his daughter’s writing; she hadn’t made the same mistake. My friend must have heard the double letter expression before but it was unfamiliar to me; I had assumed a letter with a ‘double’ sound in it meant W. Afterwards I would use the double device triumphantly and often:

M – i – double s – i – double s – i – double p – i

I’d do well to remember the confusion and anxiety I felt about my dawfodil though; it might help me understand just a stamen of being Dylan.

Teaching W

W 003Because the names, shapes and sounds of letters aren’t intuitive or easy, attempts have been made by practitioners and publishers to develop teaching resources and methodologies. Whether or not these help probably depends on an individual child’s learning style. A kinaesthetic learner, for example, might respond to the Steiner approach to learning the alphabet through music, movement and drama. This method involves children physically taking on the attributes of each of the letters of the alphabet and embodying learning through the senses. The magnetic letters which I use with Dylan are also aimed at children who learn through their senses as they can be experienced by touch and smell as well as sight.

amazonw2As a phonetic method the commercial resource Letterland focuses primarily on sound. Available in a range of formats (jigsaw, books, video etc) it works through the association of each letter with an alliterative character (human or animal). So, for example, C is Clever Cat, J is Jumping Jim and W is Walter Walrus (though when my children were small it was Wicked Water Witch). Many children respond well to the Letterland alphabet – I remember my step daughter liked it and it really did seem to help her developing literacy. It doesn’t suit every child though; my daughter was lukewarm about it and it never held any interest for Dylan. Now, perhaps, I can understand why; Dylan doesn’t hear a Walrus, he sees a see saw.

Just as I put a  ‘w’ in daffodil because I thought I heard one, perhaps Dylan visualises see saws in words with w:

Yelloseesaw [Yellow]

Seesawonderseesawall  [Wonderwall]

Seesawindoseesaws  [Windows]

I have been wondering what else Dylan sees in the letters of the alphabet. One day I will ask him but not all at once as it would overwhelm him. I’ve tried to guess though – O could be wheel perhaps:

Twheelwheelkit  [Toolkit]

Wheelseesawl  [Owl]

Mwheelther  [Mother]

W 007Looking again

If Dylan sees letters as objects unconnected with the sounds they represent then it must be very hard for him to make sense of letters as signifiers. To my knowledge the only group of letters Dylan recognises is ‘Dylan’ and this is because he has been exposed to them as a sequence rather than as individual characters. What might be the implications for supporting literacy development in children and adults with autism and learning disability? Based on my limited observations of Dylan I would hazard that for some young people the ‘look say’ method might be a more appropriate approach than a phonetically-based system. Learning words certainly seems more effective than learning letters for Dylan and if I had his early years again this is probably what I would focus on. Then again, that way I might have missed the see saw…

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Images:

The daffodils are via publicdomainimages.net; the swingboats are via wikipedia; the Letterland book is via Amazon and the other photos are taken by me. The picture of Dylan on a seesaw (aged three) was taken in France in 1997.

Ways Of Learning: examples from a home education programme

books etc 016In my last post I reflected on a home learning programme which I undertook with Dylan in the years immediately following his autism diagnosis. In that post I referred to a framework for home learning described by Aboucher and Desforges:

reading, library visits, playing with numbers and letters, playing with shapes, teaching nursery rhymes and singing.

In this post I provide examples of Dylan’s home-based learning within each of these categories. Although Aboucher and Desforges’ framework is not based on a specialist learning environment I think it is equally applicable for an autistic child with a learning disability. As the examples illustrate, however, flexibility is required when interpreting the categories.

a) Reading/library visits

Although Dylan doesn’t ‘read’ he has always loved books. Below are some ways in which Dylan engages with literacy-based activities and my reflections on their possible value.

  • WP_20150107_09_12_58_ProReading the same book for weeks on end. I used to try and move Dylan on to other texts but later realised that this repetition suits Dylan’s learning style and builds his confidence.
  • Reading multiple copies of the same book. I have speculated on possible reasons for this here.
  • Reading the same page in a particular book. Dylan keeps favourite books open at ‘special pages’. At home he keeps these close at meal time and bath time. I imagine that these pages are comforters for Dylan or that the characters on the page are real to him and are his friends, sharing Dylan’s key activities.
  • Turning the pages of a book rapidly, usually from back to front, sometimes while looking away or with eyes closed. I imagine Dylan might be counting or playing memory games.
  • Carrying books around without opening or looking at them. There are eight books which go everywhere with Dylan. Dylan doesn’t look at these outside the house; sometimes, when we are in a cafe, I might say ‘why don’t you have a look at one of your books Dylan?’ But he never wants to. Dylan has the books with him not as we might, in order to read at opportune moments, but as comforters perhaps, or because they are friends, or he enjoys their weight.
  • books etc 007Using books as objects, for example to sit on, lick, or wear on the head. Dylan’s sensory and physical relationship with books as artefacts is a valuable part of his developing literacy. Dylan accepts my standards of care for library books, I think, because he has his own copy of favourite books (which I accept will become wet, dirty and torn).
  • Reading homemade books. These can be quite simple: scrapbooks, for example, laminated pages or inserts in plastic sleeves of an A4 folder. The books can have a narrative arc (for example ‘using the toilet’) but more often the books I made for Dylan were simply pages of things which I thought would interest him.

For Dylan ‘reading’ is usually a private activity. This was hard for me to accept, initially, as my expectations and instinct about early literacy were that it should be shared. In time I learned to give Dylan the space he needed however. I developed the following techniques for offering support:

owl babies~ sitting silently next to Dylan with my index finger held out (I discovered that Dylan would take my finger and point to something in the book if he wanted me to name an object or clarify something);

~ sitting next to Dylan offering a simple commentary as he turned the pages (talking about the book rather than reading the narrative);

~ sitting at a distance ‘modelling’ reading by turning the pages of a book and using simple language (‘Percy sad’);

~ memorising some of Dylan’s favourite books and speaking these to Dylan at various times of day. In time this triggered him to fetch the book.

There are now a few books which Dylan will allow me to read with him. It is always important, however, that I let Dylan take the lead, e.g. selecting the text and setting the pace for me to read as he turns the pages.

b) Numbers and letters

books etc 005Numbers and letters are abstract symbols. Some children with an autistic spectrum condition are comfortable with this and demonstrate a facility for mathematics or for learning foreign languages. This is not the case for Dylan, however, for whom numbers and letters as symbols have never appeared meaningful.

At 20 Dylan will identify marks on a page as ‘why-ya’ (writing). He will also tell me that I am ‘why-ya’ if he sees me with a pen or pencil and piece of paper. Interestingly, however, if I am typing at a keyboard he will not identify this as ‘why-ya’ but rather ‘poo’ (computer) which he sees as a different activity entirely. I’m not sure if Dylan connects letters with communication (i.e. whether or not he understands the link between reading and writing). I am even less sure that Dylan associates number symbols (1,2,3 etc) with the thing(s) they represent. Dylan doesn’t have a word for ‘numbers’ and hasn’t ever told me that a symbol is a ‘number’ in the way that he has identified marks on a page as ‘why-ya’. I suspect that, for Dylan, numbers and letters amount to the same thing: abstract marks on a page.

I did a lot of fairly conventional number and letter work as part of Dylan’s home learning programme when he was young. Mostly this involved me trying to teach Dylan to sequence numbers and letters and to copy them. Dylan did not enjoy this work and never showed any real understanding of it. If I had my time again I wouldn’t bother. I continue to try and develop Dylan’s awareness of numbers and letters through alternative approaches, however. Activities which Dylan seems to enjoy and which have had some impact include:

  • books etc 006Counting things in pictures (the windows in Ulm cathedral is a favourite activity) through chant and point. Whenever Dylan pays attention to something I look for objects we can count, e.g. ‘let’s count the stars’.
  • Playing dominoes (this may be more about matching the shape of the dots than about number but I try to enforce the number link by counting dots when we play).
  • Focusing on meaningful sequences of numbers and letters rather than abstract sequences such as the alphabet. The  sequences of letters which Dylan recognises currently are D-y-l-a-n and (possibly) m-u-m. It has taken many years of exposure to the letters in Dylan’s name for him to recognise them. Even now I don’t think that Dylan ‘reads’ his name; he likes pointing to the letters on his door and for me to chant them, but he is as likely to indicate them in reverse order (but get cross if I sound them out backwards).
  • Gradually replacing familiar pictures with letter sequences. I tried doing this as part of Dylan’s home learning programme by blanking out some of the pictures in his ‘red book’ and in lotto games. On reflection I tried this too early. I should have allowed more time for Dylan to feel confident communicating with photographs, pictures and symbols before moving him onto letters. Attempting letters too early created a sense of failure in Dylan and frustration in me (or perhaps vice-versa). My sense is that Dylan is only now moving into the symbolic stage of communication; I have had some success this year with makaton signs and symbols and have therefore recently introduced the sequence m-u-m.
  • books etc 002Introducing numbers and letters in a naturalistic and comfortable setting. I have introduced m-u-m on Dylan’s visual timetable board because it’s an object which is important to him, that he is comfortable with, and which he interacts with on a daily basis. For other children and adults this might be DVDs, i-pads, the fridge door etc.
  • While technology supports some children to develop an awareness of numbers and letters, Dylan doesn’t seem to recognise word processed text or screen-based letters and numbers. Dylan’s learning style is kinaesthetic; he needs to hold a physical letter or number in his hand and engage with it as an object. For learners like Dylan, play letters and numbers are important for years beyond what might be considered ‘age-appropriate’.

c) Shapes

wikipediaI did ‘shape work’ with Dylan as part of his home learning programme but am fairly confident that he still doesn’t recognise the words ‘square’, ‘circle’ or ‘triangle’. And who cares? Is it going to make his life any less rich? Does it matter if he doesn’t know the word to describe a shape? As with letters and numbers, Dylan needs a physical object in his hand to recognise the shape of it. I’m sure that he has an intimate understanding of a triangle; if I put one in his hand he would explore it with all his senses (especially if it was a piece of Toblerone). But he wouldn’t recognise the name for it. And he wouldn’t push it into a ‘shape sorter’ with any enthusiasm or success. In fact I used to think Dylan tried to push shapes into the wrong holes deliberately, for a laugh.

books etc 009Autistic children have good visual-spatial awareness and it is generally assumed that they therefore enjoy doing things based on these skills such as jigsaws. Dylan, however, doesn’t show any enthusiasm or particular ability for jigsaws. I have never been sure whether this is because he finds them difficult or because he finds them boring; although mostly Dylan doesn’t complete jigsaws, sometimes he surprises me by showing that he can. Actually I’m with Dylan on this one; I’ve always found jigsaws fairly pointless. Nonetheless I scheduled them in Dylan’s home learning programme because I thought I should. On reflection it was a waste of time; there were plenty of other things we could have been doing. Some of the activities I did (and still do) with Dylan which develop his visual-spatial skills and which he enjoys include:

  • Matching games. It is easy to make lotto games of objects which your child is particularly interested in or of new vocabulary which you want to teach. While this isn’t about ‘shape’ as such, it is about pattern recognition which involves the same cognitive processes.
  • Flash cards. A deck of cards is tactile and comforting; you can shuffle, sort, browse, deal, distribute, drop, pick-up, check, lose, duplicate and throw away. So many wonderful possibilities. Dylan liked cards. I probably didn’t exploit this interest as much as I could have.
  • Found shapes. As a writer I love to stumble on poems which exist without having been written: the found poems we encounter if we keep our hearts and minds open. And shapes are even easier to find than poems; food is a great place to look (I’ve already mentioned Toblerone) as is the great outdoors. I am currently working on pointing shapes out to Dylan in the hope he might make the links between them and recognise the abstract concept of ‘triangle’ as something which applies equally to a piece of chocolate and a road sign.

d) nursery rhymes and singing

education reflections 055Some of Dylan’s most effective exposure to language has been through musical resources; I suspect this is because nursery rhymes and songs use devices such as chorus and repetition which create the pattern and structure which Dylan responds to. Although Dylan has an ambiguous relationship with singing due to his auditory sensitivity (I have written about this here and here) music has been one of the most important things in his life and seems increasingly significant as he gets older.

Nursery rhymes and singing are used in early years education not just because of their intrinsic value but as a vehicle for learning. They can support the development of pre-lingual skills such as turn-taking and imitation as well as developing social awareness (for example emotional understanding) and cognitive knowledge (for example in relation to literacy and numeracy). While I realise this raises issues around age-appropriate activities (which I have reflected on here) I continue to engage Dylan through nursery rhymes and singing on a daily basis. Some approaches which I have found particularly useful include:

  • music 029Making compilations of nursery rhymes and songs for Dylan on key themes to support specific learning (e.g. ‘parts of the body’ or ‘counting’)
  • Putting nursery rhymes on Dylan’s i-pod so that he can listen to them privately and when out and about in the community (I have written more about this here)
  • Encouraging Dylan to listen to nursery rhymes as part of a bed time routine (I think Dylan has learned a lot from his years of routine listening)
  • ‘Embodying’ nursery rhymes through actions: some of Dylan’s favourite nursery rhymes, and the ones he seems to learn most from, are those with accompanying actions.
  • Exaggerating actions to nursery rhymes in order to emphasise communicative purpose.
  • Making changes to the words of familiar nursery rhymes so that Dylan accesses meaning as well as sound. My daughter, for example, changed ‘one potato, two potato’ into ‘one banana, two banana’ one day, changing the shape of her hand from a fist to a flat curve. Dylan found this hilarious and still enjoys changing potato to banana.
  • Exaggerating singing of nursery rhymes in order to emphasise features of language such as stress, intonation, tone and pitch.

Final reflection: the importance of language

independence 016What makes the education system fundamentally inaccessible for many children is the role of language in the delivery of the curriculum. A key challenge for parents and educators is therefore how to make learning accessible for children who do not speak or use an alternative communication system. Dylan is currently developing some echolalic speech but for the majority of his life, and throughout his schooling, has been classed as ‘non-verbal’. It is perhaps not surprising  that so many of the suggestions in this post focus on language development; it is in its potential for adaptations to language, I suspect, that a home learning programme may be of particular value.

Reference:
Desforges P. and Aboucher, A. (2003) The Impact of Parental Involvement, Parental Support and Family Education on Pupil Achievement and Adjustment: A Literature Review. Queen’s Printer: Exeter

Images:

The images of Owl Babies and the Toblerones  are from Wikipedia. The opening photograph of Dylan reading Postman Pat was taken during a holiday in France in the late 90s, at the time of Dylan’s home education programme. The closing photograph of Dylan at a climbing centre (holding a copy of Pinocchio) was taken just before Christmas 2014.

Education-Based Intervention In Autism: Dylan’s home learning programme

education reflections 005In a previous post I reflected on the pressure which parents can feel under to take action in the aftermath of an autism diagnosis; early intervention, we are told, can play a critical role in future outcomes. Following Dylan’s diagnosis 18 years ago I trialled a long list of therapies. These interventions, I suggested in my earlier post, could be categorised as sensory; dietary and medical; behavioural; and educational. This is the last in a series of posts reviewing these approaches in turn.

Orchestrating interventions

No single approach is sufficient in itself and I doubt there are any parents or professionals who focus exclusively on one of the four categories of intervention I identify above. The question, for most parents, is the balance between the categories and the way as education reflections 008caregivers and educators we orchestrate them. In my introductory post to this series I identified some of the factors which impact on our choice of therapy: the child; parental values; the available resources; and the ‘dominant discourse’ abut autism at the time. As well as influencing our adoption of individual therapies, these factors affect the way we combine them.

One hypothetical parent of a pre-school child, for example, may opt for a gluten and casein-free diet with sensory-based interventions such as weighted blankets, massage, music therapy and gross motor activities. Such a parent may adopt a non-directive approach, preferring not to use behaviourist interventions or to offer their child formal education. Another hypothetical parent, meanwhile, may focus on the re-shaping of behaviour through a programme of rewards and reinforcers based on behaviourist education reflections 009philosophy. Such an intervention would include educational input as behaviourist approaches are used to facilitate cognitive as well as social learning; the framework for the educational content, however, would be social.

The two hypothetical parents in the above examples are a bit stereotypical. While it is often the case that a family opting for a behaviourist programme will place less emphasis on sensory approaches it is possible to mix and match eclectically from the four categories. To a large extent this was the approach I took with Dylan. However, as my earlier posts in this series indicate, the different interventions map onto distinct sets of ideas so choosing a particular intervention also involves adopting a particular philosophy.

Why education?

education reflections 012The four categories of intervention activity are underpinned by philosophical ideas because they align with academic disciplines and thus with theory as well as practice. Sensory interventions, for example, draw on ideas from Occupational Therapy while behaviourism is based on theory from Psychology and dietary and medical interventions align with disciplinary fields such as biochemistry and neuroscience.

As an academic discipline as well as a field of practice, education offers activities underpinned by theories about learning and child development. Given my work as an educator, this was a comfortable place for me; the language and philosophy felt familiar even in the transformed landscape of an autism diagnosis. After half-hearted trials with other interventions, and an abandoned attempt at a behaviourist programme, education was therefore what I chose.

Parent and educator

Initially I proceeded by instinct, aware that my assumptions about teaching and learning could be a burden rather than an asset when working with Dylan: in order to become a better educator I had to do what I asked of my students and unlearn some of my beliefs about education. Although I tried to bracket my professional experience I did draw on some practices from the workplace such as systematic planning and recording. I probably didn’t realise at the time how useful this was but looking back I can see that the framework it provided was helpful for me as well as for Dylan.

It isn’t easy for a parent to take on the role of educator. The most significant challenge I faced was without doubt my ability to cope emotionally. The inevitable frustrations and setbacks can be hard when you are emotionally involved with the child. You cannot walk away from the situation at the end of a difficult day. It can be harder to evaluate learning objectively; sometimes I wore rose-coloured spectacles and sometimes dark lenses. Furthermore, the potential for confusion of role between mother and son, teacher and child, presents particular challenges in the context of autism.

It is perhaps not surprising that many parents prefer to employ people to work with their children – indeed, this is recommended by behaviourist programmes. This wasn’t an option for me however; finances didn’t stretch to employing assistants for Dylan. Besides, I argued to myself, I had the necessary skills as well as instinct.

Intervention by instinct

education reflections 053It was by instinct, however, that I developed what I called ‘video teaching’. I’m not sure whether it was original (probably not) but I came up with it one night, alone and restlessly awake, praying for a good idea by morning. Dylan would have been around four years old at this point and his love of video was already clear. The only time Dylan was still was watching Pingu, Postman Pat or Thomas the Tank Engine. He would sit on a cushion in front of the television, periodically flapping his hands or making an excited ‘shushing’ noise with a little tremble of his head. However often Dylan watched, he was always engaged; this, I thought to myself, was the focus I needed.

education reflections 057It was the late 1990s, before the introduction of digital technology. Fortunately I had access to recording equipment at work so one holiday I borrowed a large, heavy camera. With the help of my six year old step-daughter, husband and mum I made ‘home teaching videos’ for Dylan. These involved flash cards and objects in real life contexts. In one scene, for example, my mum held a fork and flashcard in her hand while saying: Fork Dylan. It’s a fork. F-O-R-K. Fork. Then she mimed eating with the fork. Having the flashcard and the object, and hearing the word pronounced repeatedly, was an attempt to engage Dylan as a visual as well as an aural learner. It also allowed for the possibility that although Dylan didn’t speak he might be able to read (this hasn’t turned out to be the case).

Dylan loved the videos; he would happily watch them through over and over, seeming to enjoy seeing familiar people and objects on the screen. I’m not sure how much Dylan learned from the videos – he almost certainly didn’t engage with the flashcards and at 20 still struggles to recognise some of the vocabulary – but I think they were worthwhile nonetheless. Video teaching taught me that a home learning programme is a good way of involving the wider family (my step-daughter had great fun making the videos). It also demonstrated to me that Dylan could focus if I developed materials which were engaging and in a format with which he was comfortable.

The home learning environment

education reflections 062As well as instinct I drew on approaches to working with autistic children which were current at the time. I used ‘start-finish’ baskets as advocated by TEACCH programmes, for example. Although I had rejected behaviourism for Dylan I borrowed the approach to pace and rhythm adopted by the PEACH programme; working in short bursts seemed appropriate for Dylan and chunking up the sessions provided me with a robust structure when planning. I also borrowed some instructional techniques and based Dylan’s work space on a mash-up of TEACCH and PEACH; eclectic, but so what if it worked?

education reflections 054At the time, my focus was very much on finding alternative ways of working with Dylan. I didn’t believe the child development manuals had anything to offer us and the school curriculum seemed irrelevant. As far as I was concerned, what I had to do with Dylan was utterly different to the approach I took with his neurotypical sister. When I worked with Dylan I felt as if I was somewhere otherly and without a map; I was, I thought, a cartographer.

Marking a student’s essay recently, however, I read something which gave me pause for thought. Aboucher and Desforges, my student informed me, describe a Home Learning Environment (HLE) as one that is made up of:

reading, library visits, playing with numbers and letters, playing with shapes, teaching nursery rhymes and singing.

education reflections 028I read the list of activities (which relate to any home learning rather than specialist provision) several times. What struck me is that it was a perfect description of my current life with Dylan; in the course of a week, we do all of these things. There is a sense in which time stands still, or moves slowly, when living with autism; at 20, Dylan is rehearsing many of the same skills he was at five. I fetched my crate of home education resources from the cellar and looked through them; the early intervention activities I did with Dylan fitted the Aboucher and Desforges’ framework well.

education reflections 049I probably didn’t do anything different with Dylan 16 years ago, in terms of focus, than an early years educator would do with any child. What was different, however, was the way in which Dylan engaged with the books, numbers, letters, shapes, nursery rhymes and singing. In a linked post I provide illustrations which, as well as demonstrating the role of a HLE in supporting an autistic child, offer practical ideas for parents within the categories identified by Aboucher and Desforges.

Hindsight standing still

education reflections 050If the activities I do with Dylan haven’t changed in the last 16 years happily I have; I can still enjoy that wonderful thing, hindsight, while standing still. And if I had my time again I would do some things differently; I would, for example, focus more on interventions based on OT (an earlier post describes activities I think particularly helpful). While I did fine motor work with Dylan (cutting, threading, shape sorting) I probably didn’t place enough emphasis on physical activity. There was only limited understanding, at the time, of sensory profiling; of the various developments in the last couple of decades I would say that our knowledge of sensory issues has made the most significant difference to the support we can offer our children.

education reflections 055In the introduction to this post I restated the four factors I believe drive decisions about intervention: the child, the parent, the available resources and the dominant discourse. A better understanding of Dylan’s needs when he was diagnosed might have led me to adopt a sensory-based approach to early intervention. While my choice of intervention may not have been sufficiently focused on the child, however, neither was it driven by prevailing discourses at the time; I rejected the use of behaviourist and dietary/medical interventions as a potential ‘cure’ for autism. While I’m not uncomfortable with my decision to focus on educational intervention following diagnosis, Dylan didn’t benefit from my HLE in the way I had hoped.

On reflection, the decision to focus on educational interventions was based on my needs not Dylan’s. While working intensively with Dylan developed my practice, Dylan didn’t acquire the skills I had intended. Early intervention, it turned out, would bring about changes in me, the parent, rather than in the child. In the years since, I have wondered if the transformation of parental attitudes and beliefs is the main value of such initiatives. This surely is invaluable? A child’s parents are his or her greatest resource and time invested in the relationship is, perhaps, the mother of all interventions.

Reference:

Desforges P. and Aboucher, A. (2003) The Impact of Parental Involvement, Parental Support and Family Education on Pupil Achievement and Adjustment: A Literature Review. Queen’s Printer: Exeter

Images:

The images in the post are examples of my early planning and recording, Dylan’s ‘work’ from the time and pages from his ‘red book’, a resource I developed to support the home education programme.

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Best wishes for 2015

Liz and Dylan

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Autism And Friendship: learning from Dylan

I’ve had cause to reflect on friendship recently, partly triggered by Dylan’s social life and partly by an event in the workplace which left me with some questions. In this post I apply my reflections on Dylan’s relationships to the neurotypical world and suggest ways in which we might re-think ‘friendship’.

Ruby*

Dylan July 13 003Last week I took Dylan to the 21st birthday of a young woman he has known since primary school. Dylan and Ruby have grown into beautiful young adults, I thought to myself as I watched them at the party. Ruby had opted for a disco buffet for her celebration. It was a perfect choice; there is nothing like food and dancing to bring together men and women, old and young, family and friends and the autistic and neurotypical.

Dylan’s dancing style is centrifugal; he and I spun each other around, jumping and hopping in ever-increasing circles. I don’t know what Ruby made of Dylan’s dancing but I figured it might be pretty similar to the way I looked at men at discos when I was her age. She can’t have thought it too awful though as she let her mum dance with Dylan for a while.

As well as dancing Dylan took the opportunity to be wine waiter. He held tightly to a bottle of wine, pouring large glasses and doing ‘chink chink cheers’ with whoever was willing. He also enjoyed the buffet. When my back was turned Dylan removed and ate all the sausages from the sausage rolls, leaving the pastry cases in perfect curls on the plate. I suspect he ate all of the chicken nugget supply. For Dylan, this was the ideal party: there aren’t many places you can steal sausages, play with wine and dance like a dervish.

Dylan and Ruby haven’t always been comfortable sharing their space. Over the years there have been a number of altercations and they have sometimes needed separating. If I got a phone call from school to say Dylan had been involved in an incident I would automatically ask ‘and is Ruby alright?’. They could still annoy each other I’m sure – indeed we had to abort a walk which set off on the wrong foot recently – but, happily, having Dylan at the party was a success.

Stepping stones and splash holes

party time 005Dylan doesn’t get to go to many parties. When he was young I organised birthday celebrations at autism-friendly venues such as soft play centres. In time, however, I realised these were not enjoyable experiences for Dylan. Birthday parties are stressful; as well as the challenge of the environment and disruption to routine, guests are noisy, unpredictable and annoying. Dylan much preferred to celebrate his birthday with a family meal at a quiet pub.

Dylan, like many young people with autism, likes to spend time alone. If I arranged for other children to come to the house he would spend the whole visit in a state of anxiety. Other autistic children would go through his DVD collection and toys, interfering with his careful ordering and disrupting his environment. They would want to watch a film which wasn’t on his schedule for the day. Even if they chose the right film, Dylan doesn’t like watching with other people in the room. While generally tolerant of the children he was alongside at school, he didn’t want them in his space at home.

Once I’d realised this I stopped organising such ‘opportunities’. Why impose my ideas of what is appropriate on Dylan? He didn’t want to do play dates. As Dylan entered his adolescent years I discovered that he could tolerate contact with peers for selected activities. A walk in a local valley in the company of a young man Dylan had been at school with was fine, for example; although they didn’t walk together they walked in a similar manner to the same route and destination. Similarly Dylan was quite happy with an occasional picnic trip with Ruby to a bend in the river where they could play separately on the stepping stones (Dylan) and in the splash holes (Ruby).

Ella

Easter 2014 034It’s hard, as the parent of an autistic child, to know how best to support peer group ‘friendships’. While I didn’t want to put Dylan in situations he found stressful, neither did I wish to write off the potential benefits of peer group contact. As well as respecting Dylan’s preference for spending time alone, however, there were other factors which prevented me from setting up more play dates.

Organising social events for autistic children is tricky when your child attends a special school. Although you become familiar with the other children on the bus your child travels on, you may never meet their parents. Furthermore, there are few occasions when you get to visit your child’s school at the same time as other families. In this situation it isn’t easy to make connections with the parents of your child’s peer group. It was a happy chance, then, when it turned out that a new friend through my poetry networks had an autistic daughter the same age as Dylan.

I have written a little about Dylan’s trips out with Ella here, here and here. Although Dylan pays only scant attention to Ella, his relationship with her marks a development in Dylan’s understanding of peer group relationships. He has learned, for example, that he can meet people outside the context of school who have similar interests to him. I’ll never forget Dylan’s astonishment when, visiting Ella at home one day, he discovered that her VHS and DVD collection was almost a complete copy of his own. I also learned, as he pulled all Ella’s films off her shelves and spread them around her bedroom floor (Ella looking on in increasing agitation) that Dylan can be just as annoying to his autistic peers as they are to him.

Christopher*

party time 004Dylan’s relationships with Ruby and Ella are fairly typical of his peer group friendships. I don’t think the fact they are with the opposite sex is especially significant although as Dylan grew up in a predominantly female household I suppose he may feel more comfortable with girls. For a while when he was younger, however, Dylan had a quite exceptional friendship with a boy called Christopher.

For a long time I didn’t know about Christopher. One day however, dropping Dylan off at his primary school following an appointment, I was surprised to see him approach another child and give him an excited squeeze. Anxious about the physical contact I made to intervene but Dylan’s class teacher stopped me: ‘It’s alright – that’s Dylan’s little friend ‘ she said. ‘They’re pleased to see each other. ‘Friend? Dylan? I had never seen Dylan pay attention to anyone his own age except for his sister and step-sister.

Dylan treats siblings as honorary adults. At a young age Dylan discovered that people his own size at home could help him to the things he wanted in the same way parents could; they could rewind videos, reach a packet of crisps, fasten shoelaces and play clapping games. ‘Sister’ and ‘Mog’ were therefore acceptable to Dylan. Apart from this, other children (especially if they were smaller) were to be avoided. Until Christopher.

I didn’t have many opportunities to see Dylan and Christopher together. Once however, while shopping at a supermarket the other side of town, Dylan suddenly ran off. When I caught up with Dylan he was at the other side of the checkout counter, holding Christopher’s hand and making greeting noises. I loved that Dylan had spotted his friend and gone to say hello. Later, when we moved to that part of the city, Dylan and Christopher travelled to and from school on the same minibus. I didn’t get to see them together as Dylan was collected before and dropped off after Christopher, but the escort often told me about their special friendship.

Perhaps in time the friendship between Dylan and Christopher would have moved to out of school contact. One day, however, there was an incident on the bus; Christopher and Dylan got upset and in the kerfuffle Dylan was hit by a flailing arm. This had a significant effect on Dylan who became wary, preferring to sit alone on the bus and no longer interacting freely with Christopher. No matter how much I tried to explain that what had happened was an ‘accident’ Dylan could not be reassured. Although it pained me to watch Dylan lose confidence I told myself that the fact he had experienced such feelings meant that, however severe his disability, he was capable of friendship.

Beyond School

Dylan July 13 002Although Dylan has grown into more comfortable relationships with his peer group there has never been another Christopher. When I let myself dream about Dylan’s future, however, I imagine a house with two or three young men, one of whom looks uncannily like him. I suspect I’ve spent the last four years looking for Christopher. ‘Has Dylan developed any special relationships?’ I ask teachers and care workers periodically. The answer is always the same: Not really.

Key workers and ‘adults who help’ continue to be Dylan’s main reference group. Perhaps that’s not so surprising: Dylan has enough self-awareness to recognise that he needs someone to support him with self care, food preparation and accessing the community. He is probably smart to put his emotional energy into those people he knows have a role in helping him with these things. What does he have to gain from investing time in members of a peer group? They are both the problem (too noisy, unpredictable and annoying) and the competition (also vying for the attention of a ‘helping adult’).

While recognising that Dylan may not prioritise friendships with his peer group, communal living is an experience which I want him to have, especially as Dylan has spent much of his life alone with me. At Ruby’s party I was reminded again of the opportunities which social contact brings; a shared house, I told myself, will help Dylan develop emotional and social skills. From time to time I’ve discussed with other parents the possibility of creating such a house. The problem, of course, is that like-minded parents do not necessarily have well-matched children. In the absence of a peer group chosen by me or identified by Dylan his next move will have to be into an established group. Although I am anxious about this it is, of course, no different to class groups in school. If teachers can manage their classrooms so they are positive environments then surely an adult community can aspire to the same goal?

Back to school

IMG_0193Except the influence which teachers can have on peer group relationships is, I know, limited. Although school years have been described as the happiest days of our lives there is increasing awareness that for many children this is not the case; for some they are the most miserable. In education there is a growing focus on the experience of the child with attempts to access the ‘voice’ of young and disabled children through participatory research methods. Against this background, ‘children’s friendship’ is an increasingly popular focus for enquiry.

I attended a seminar given by a colleague on this topic recently. Occasionally one of my undergraduate students opts to focus on friendship for a work placement project and I hoped the seminar would give me ideas for methods and literature I might share. As it was a lunchtime seminar following a busy morning I was concentrating on my sandwich as much as the seminar initially. Soon, however, I noticed that the categorisation of children’s friendship, and particularly its focus on play, were problematic if I made Dylan my reference point. For the next ten minutes I listened with Dylan in mind. This proved a revelation; the conceptualisation of ‘friendship’ simply did not work.

april-may 09 115While my colleague was describing research in the area I tried to imagine not just Dylan but other children on the autistic spectrum. It still wasn’t working. So I pushed to what might be considered the ‘mildest’ end of the spectrum; the place where the Aspie girls hang out. These are the girls who may ‘pass’ for years as neurotypical (sometimes a lifetime) because they are bright and articulate with a range of interests. There is increasing interest in these girls; because the diagnostic tool for autism has been primarily derived from, aimed at and applied to boys it is suggested that girls on the Asperger’s end of the spectrum tend to go unidentified. The growing research in the area suggests that for these girls the social experience of school is often miserable; awkward and on the edges, Aspie girls can find it difficult to interpret the environment or fit in. Some of the girls who experience bullying at school, it is suggested, may fall into this group of undiagnosed autistic.

My colleague started to describe one of the girls in her classroom study. She was on the margins. She wasn’t reporting friendships to my colleague using the same language or concepts as the other girls in the study nor was she mentioned by her classmates as a friend; she was, suggested my colleague, socially isolated. The power of educational research is that it is used to support and develop practice; practitioners build ideas from research into their work and promote them in educational environments. The assumption drawn from this particular study was that the isolated girl needed to be helped to develop more appropriate patterns of social interaction, i.e. to form ‘friendships’ with her peers.

The more I thought about the girl in the case study the more I was convinced that it wasn’t she who needed help but the other children in the class. Surely an inclusive environment would be one in which a group is able to support someone who chooses to inhabit the peripheral zone of a classroom? Shouldn’t we be encouraging children to understand that not everyone wants to be sociable and spend their time small talking with peers? Ought we not to be promoting a model of diversity in relation to social interaction in classrooms rather than a monolithic concept of friendship? This girl and Dylan, I realised, were not only not adequately described by this research, they were problematised by it. ‘Friendship’, it seemed, was another of those norms which feel so irrelevant to Dylan’s life and such an obstacle to his inclusion in society. As the vignettes of Dylan’s interactions with some of his peers show, Dylan is capable of forming meaningful relationships; while they might not follow the dominant model of friendship, they are no less valuable for that. As Dylan’s journey into communal living gets underway I will not doubt reflect further on this issue.

*names have been changed.

Acknowledgements

I am grateful to my colleague for inadvertently providing me with the opportunity to reflect on Dylan’s relationships with others and the conceptualisation of ‘friendship’. My colleague’s research was not concerned with autism but with other issues which I do not address in this post and from which I confess I attempted to divert attention during the latter part of the seminar. My left-field interjections were fielded gracefully 🙂

For information about issues related to ‘Aspie Girls’ there is no better resource than Cynthia Kim’s excellent blog Musings of an Aspie: http://musingsofanaspie.com/about/

Images:

The photos of Dylan and Ella were taken on the banks of the canal at Sheffield and Chesterfield. The pictures of Dylan as an adult were taken at the Under the Stars Disco. The children’s party photos were taken at Dylan’s 6th birthday at a soft play centre. The classroom photo is of a younger me working with a group of primary school children on a writing project. The shadow photo is by (and of) me.